Hot take: people who argue that saying “mood,” “same,” “F,” “oh worm?” etc. add nothing to a conversation don’t realize that they function the same way as aizuchi, i.e. signalling that you’re still paying attention to what the speaker is saying, which is harder to do when you can’t see the other person. In this essay, I will
RE: Grace Millane, and the bullshit victim-blaming response to her death.
Even as a physically weak, anxious woman, I am quite happy to travel alone, and usually prefer it to travelling with others. The thing is, travelling alone isn’t really any more dangerous for a woman than anything else is.
Crossing the street is dangerous. Being in a relationship with a man, or in the same house as a gun is dangerous. Saying no to the wrong man is dangerous. Being a non-white or non-cisgender or even non-straight woman in the wrong place is dangerous. Two “young women” travelling together can be just as bad as one. Travelling with a male partner is asking for trouble, too; what if you “made the wrong choice” and that man assaults you? Of course you should have known better.
Of course your parents and friends should not have “let” you, a grown adult in their 20’s, go anywhere on your own! (By the way, how DOES one prevent a grown adult from choosing to go somewhere? By force? This woman was 22.)
Or perhaps you’re supposed to travel with your father or brother until you are too old and unattractive to be considered a “young woman” anymore? (Nevermind that rape and murder is not a thing that only happens to young people, or to women, and that “last fuckable day” may be a thing but “last assaultable day” is not). What if your male family members are, themselves, abusive or unavailable or unable to travel?
Better to just live alone, never leave your house, install extra locks and alarm systems, leave your lights on all the time, have everything delivered by mail, tell delivery people through the door to just leave it on the porch, and watch out the window for them to leave. Wait 30 minutes before opening the door. But no, that would just be “crazy”, right?
Not enough eyeroll in the world for this shit.
“Since Grace was reported missing social media has been filled with variations of this question: Why she was travelling alone?Why was she going out? Why was she meeting up with a man? (…)
They are questions that do not deserve a response but the fact they are posed at all does. Just last week it was confirmed that the home is the most dangerous place in the world for women.Their own homes. Not dark alleys. Not parks after dark. Not taxis. Or nightclubs.
A woman is most at risk in her own home.And yet when something awful happens, like a 22 year old woman being robbed of her life, people still automatically resort to questioning that woman’s choices.
Before they ask, why would a man kill a 22 year old woman, they ask, why was she backpacking alone? Was she drinking? Had she used a dating app? Why was she out late?|”
“Backpacking did not kill Grace Millane. Nor did travelling alone, Tinder, alcohol or going out late.
A person killed Grace Millane and at this stage the person most likely is the 26 year old man who is being held in custody.
It is his choices that need scrutinising and judging a thousand times over. What drove him to kill a woman? Why was he violent? Has he been violent before? Why?
He needs to be under the microscope: not Grace Millane.”
happy christmas adam to all men’s rights activists
Please stop pestering us with things like this. This has nothing to do with men fighting for their rights. Eve is short for ‘evening’. Please don’t turn activism into a joke. Thanks.
Someone isn’t having a good christmas adam
Christmas Adam: December 23rd. Comes before Christmas Eve and is generally unsatisfying.
True fact: I rewound that scene several times and went back to watch it again just because it made me laugh/smile so much x_x and it’s definitely the scene I have re-watched most in the entire series even though my favourite is actually Catra.
LOL guys, I can’t get over that “Boyish lesbian re-imagines She-Ra as boyish lesbian” complaint tweet, because:
a) This is a complaint?? I would buy a thing based soley on that description and so would half of my friends.
b) I love how they’re implying that this is SOMEHOW DIFFERENT from "White male re-imagines history as 100% white and male" or “Sexist pervert re-imagines kid’s show as pin-up models in sexy Halloween costumes” or “Douchebag misogynist re-imagines fantasy hero as douchebag misogynist” or “Author who sees women as objects re-imagines women as objects”
…I mean. Do tell how this is different in any way, I’m all ears ;D
